How To Discover The Unique Magic Inside You That Makes You WIN At Life

How To Discover The Unique Magic Inside You That Makes You WIN At Life

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You wake up in the morning to discover new bruises and scratches all over your body. What’s worse is you were all alone all night — so no one could be to blame for this. Did you sleepwalk? Did you fall out of the bed?

No, you would’ve remembered that… There’s no explanation for what happened, so you try to put it out of your mind.

But a few days later, it happens again. Same circumstances, same type of cuts and bruises. It becomes clear that you must be injuring yourself in your sleep even though you have no memory of doing so.

What can you do to resolve this problem?

You really only have two choices: You can try to find some way to prevent hurting yourself next time you fall asleep, or you can become an insomniac.

Both approaches would solve your problem, but they’re not equally practical.

Becoming an insomniac might work in the short-term. But it’s not a long-term solution. Your only option is to take steps to stop hurting yourself while also getting a good night’s sleep. It would be foolish to try to become an insomniac.

Likewise, it’s just as foolish to…

Become A
Psychological Insomniac…

…by attempting to be in a permanent “higher state” of growth and progress for every waking hour.

Often when we’re on the path of self-improvement, goal attainment, and hustling toward the life of our dreams, we forget it’s not always practical to maintain total awareness of our faults. And you shouldn’t want to do that anyway.

No one — regardless of what they might tell you — can maintain a constant, unbroken state of higher awareness. Something will eventually distract you from that focus. Something will require your participation in life, even if it’s just a pesky mosquito buzzing in your ear. And if you really stop to think about it, it would kind of suck to be in a permanent state of higher awareness anyway.


Because even though many of our troubles stem from being in lower states of awareness, so do most of our joys. The greatest moments of our lives often occur when we are “lost” in the activities of life.

We lose ourselves in everything — books, movies, conversation, sports, love, lust, and war. We literally have no self-awareness during many of the greatest moments of our lives: We fall asleep.

Our focus becomes so intense, our awareness so narrow, that we become “attached” to the situation. Without this attachment — that is — without our “unenlightened moments”, these experiences would be impossible.

That means if you want to maintain access to the most joyous moments of your life, you must also…

Risk Living The
Darkest Moments, Too.

And it HAS to be that way. Yin and yang, baby.

Everyone you’ve ever known, admired, worshiped, or loathed has had to do the same. So if we have to spend our lives asleep as we go from one experience to the next.

What separates those who seem to go on an upward trajectory toward life success from the ones doomed to constant struggle?

The short answer is this: From time to time, they wake up. And then they go:

“Holy Crap — I’m Covered
In Bruises And Scratches.”

And that’s what you’d call a window of enlightenment. That small window is where you get the insights you can remember once the experience of waking up is gone.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t believe we can do that. Or we don’t believe we can do it enough. And the sole reason is because we don’t recognize the hidden potential of our own experience.

Put another way — we overlook the value in our own experiences because they don’t look like the magical images of growth and achievement we’ve come to expect. And we are blind to how brilliant we are in the process, thinking our own experiences are mundane, which blocks us from our power.

That’s what drives us into the arms of “gurus” and experts who claim to make us rich or solve all our problems. But recognizing these experiences for yourself is the first step to tapping into your own source of wisdom — your own source of enlightenment. It becomes…

Your Inner Compass That Guides
You To Success And Prosperity

Once you have that, you have something you can use to build and create more success in the future.

Wanna learn how to do this?

Okay, you asked for it:

First — an experience like this rarely shows up with a pool of heavenly light falling on your head and those little angel children with exposed butts from old paintings surrounding you while harps play.

It can actually look extremely ordinary. It can occur in the most unlikely, dull, and boring of places. And it can be easily missed — if you don’t know what to look for.

It simply feels like the “jolt” of a new perspective.

A jolt where, for the briefest moment in time, you’re in a psychological free-fall as your old way of seeing life gave way and a new one has yet to take hold.

Where are the fireworks? The chanting and meditation? Where is the guru trying to take all the credit for it?


There’s only you and that feeling of being “jolted” awake. That’s all there ever needed to be. If you stop chasing things outside of you long enough to consider the…

Power Of Your Own Experience

…then you might be surprised at how often you’ll find million-dollar insights doing this, all on your own.

Here’s the next step to this:

Imagine that sitting before you is a mysterious old envelope. Something about it strikes you as familiar, but you don’t know what it is. You open the envelope and discover a delightful collection of long-lost photographs from your past:

Look! There you are riding a pony. In the next one, you’re squinting in a forced, toothless grin for your third-grade class picture. Here’s one of you and your best friend before he moved away and you never heard from him again. There are photos of your old family vacations, and even one of your first cars.

Nothing particularly earth-shattering. But they bring back warm memories.

The pictures themselves are old and faded — some even out-of-focus and cracked — but you hardly notice.

It is the memories they evoke that count.

Next, Imagine The Same
Envelope Sitting Before You:

But this time when you open it, it contains not faded old pictures from your past — but recent, crisp, high-definition photos of overseas vacations. Black tie affairs. Romantic getaways.

They are the kind of pictures that would take a person’s breath away. In fact, each picture is a work of art. The kind of picture you might find in a gallery somewhere. There isn’t a person in the world who wouldn’t find these photographs to be of higher quality and more valuable than the first ones.

Not a person in the world that is, except for YOU.

You see, these new photographs aren’t yours. The beautiful, smiling faces on them belong to strangers. The exotic places where the pictures were taken are unrecognizable to you. And the beautiful memories they contain belong to someone else.

No matter how beautiful the new pictures are — or how desirable others may find them — they cannot compare to YOUR childhood pictures. The pictures from your past may be cracked, faded and out of focus. They might be of “ordinary” events in “ordinary” locations. But the memories and emotions they stir in you are strong.

They are your memories based on your experiences — and guess what?

That Is What Gives Them Their POWER.

We wouldn’t think of trading our own cherished family photos to someone else for new, more exciting photos of strange people and unknown lands. That would defeat the purpose of the photos themselves.

Why then, do we routinely hold the experiences of others to be more beautiful, meaningful, and profound than our own? Why do we eagerly follow Instagram influencers and hold them up on a pedestal just because they’re in Aruba and can work photoshop?

Likewise, the “entrepreneurial success story” has almost become a parody of itself lately…

Everyone knows Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak famously started Apple Computers in a garage in Cupertino, and they can’t stop talking about it like this magical, mythical story.

Those stories are great to read, and we can use them for inspiration, but I assure you that if you strip away all the flowery descriptions and “legendary” explanations from the success experiences of others, you will find a common core in each success story.

And that common core is this: They have one or more sudden, dramatic, and unexpected shifts in the way they saw the world. Nothing more, nothing less.

And I bet you’ve had those too. That’s the window of enlightenment. And no matter how ordinary your experiences appear to be in light of those you may have heard about, no matter how insignificant your insight may seem next to the “miraculous conversations” of others, it has the one vital element that the others do not:

It Is Yours, And That Is Enough.

This brings us to how you have the power to create whatever you want.

You see, in the face of an unforgiving reality, we often reach for help. We tend to hold others above ourselves and often respect their wisdom and intelligence more than our own.

While there is nothing wrong with this approach — there is a source of help that can topple all others. And what is that source?


Remembering that we have faced an unforgiving reality before, and in that instant, it crumbled before us — and left us with a new understanding of our world. And when we can remember this, we can leave the “gurus” behind. Or at least, only take from them the pragmatic knowledge we need to accomplish the goal we desire.

But we don’t cling to them anymore. They go from “guru” to maybe, “consultant”.

Remembering that your understanding of the world can change at any moment isn’t always enough to make yourself “wake up”. But it is enough to generate the doubt that is necessary to begin the process.

When we doubt, we begin to question.

When we question, we begin to uncover new ways of seeing the world.

And when our absolute certainty in our current perspective gives way, we are free to adopt the way of seeing the world that best serves our interests and our future success.

So Now What?

Again — too often people are looking for advice. They want the “correct course of action” to get to what they want in life. The 6-steps-to-millions. The 8-minute-abs. The text-your-ex-back coaching program.

And sometimes, that’s appropriate. But usually it’s not. And certainly not here. This is much more profound and important.

“Correct courses of action” will often lead you to dead ends, or worse — cliffs.

Instead I’d like to leave you with questions.

Questions you’ve probably heard me talk about before, but they’re worth repeating. Because if you ask these questions regularly and seek the answers only from within yourself — It will lead you to more power and control over your life. More perspective on how to win. And far deeper, more rewarding relationships, too.

And answering these questions for yourself will lead you to more powerful answers than anyone else could ever give you.

Because only when you answer them for yourself, will you be able to wake up and see how you’ve been bruised and scratched, so you can avoid it next time.

Here Are The
Three Questions:

What else could it be?

What else could it mean?

What else is happening?

That’s it.

These are perhaps three of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself when you’re faced with confusion, or when life isn’t going how you’d like. Each of them helps open up a specific area in which we often become blind to the world:

“What else could it be?” Helps break up the notion that everything in your life, and everything you see in the media only has ONE correct identity.

“What else could it mean?” Helps reveal alternative meanings for the circumstances, events, and symbols you encounter.

And “What else is happening?” Literally broadens your awareness to see things you couldn’t before asking it in any given moment. In fact, it can help you see things that you can’t achieve your goals without. Even things vital to your very survival that you’ve been blinded to.

That last question is particularly important because it runs counter to the unconscious question that drives virtually ALL human behavior and keeps us asleep.

And that unconscious question is, “What happens next?”

That’s the question we’ll never wake up from. Because it’s the question that grips our attention from moment to moment. What’s next? What’s next? What’s next?

This is the question we seek to answer virtually every moment of our lives: Entertainment, news, gossip, the stock market — everyone wants to know what’s going to happen next.

And while this question holds “our attention,” it is the other question — namely, “What else is happening” — that…

Holds The Answers
To Our Problems.

Because “What else is happening” is the question that reveals our blind spots and opens up new possibilities in everything we do.

Again — these are questions you must ultimately ask and answer for yourself. How other people would answer these questions is irrelevant to your journey and your enlightenment.

It doesn’t matter what they think. It only matters what you can reveal to yourself by questioning the world around you. THAT is what leads to revolutions, breakthroughs, wealth, and success.

Though it is commonly thought that great wisdom comes from studying ancient scrolls, long-dead poets and celebrated martyrs of the past, there is just as much wisdom available in your day-to-day life circumstances. In fact, the everyday events of our lives might be the greatest source of wisdom you can ever discover.


Because this source of wisdom doesn’t come with how-to instructions and centuries of experts proclaiming its authenticity and validity.

Instead, it must be uncovered, translated, and celebrated by no one but YOU.

In discovering the wisdom available to you in everyday life you must learn to question. Learn to SEE. And ultimately, learn to be strong enough to accept the lessons you learn on your own authority.

And the more you begin to rely on your own interpretations of reality as opposed to those given to you by others, the more of a threat you become to those who benefit from you believing every word they say.

When others feel they are beginning to lose control over you, they’ll try to discourage your efforts to change: They’ll explain where your thinking is mistaken — and how your new thoughts are inconsistent with your past commitments…

You’ll have woken up, seen the cuts and bruises all over yourself, and know the remedy. But THEY will be trying to pull you back down, urging you with all the will they have that you have no bruises or scrapes to speak of.

And more often than not, they might just have a point!

That’s what will make it so tempting to give in — and revert back to your “old” understanding of reality. Whether you do or not, is not as important as what you learn from the contradictions and conflicts you will face in the process.

Resist the temptation to take the easy way out. Sit with the discomfort long enough for the lesson to be clear.

As the eighteenth century English poet John Gay once said,

“When we risk no contradictions, it prompts the tongue to deal in fiction.”

Perhaps it’s time to take that risk and speak the truth. Your truth. The magic you’ll find within will eclipse anything you can discover by listening to anyone else.


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  • Jeff

    This is so enlightening, thank you Rich!

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